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Listening and Speaking

Today’s News Just some Thursday thoughts.

Being a good listener means not just sitting quietly as the other person talks, it means actually engaging the speaker in what it is they are talking about, it means because you are listening to what they are saying,that you may have questions about what they are talking about, therefore you ask questions and you ask the speaker to expound on what they are talking about.  A good listener does not just sit with the speaker, thinking about what they will say next when the person finishes speaking.  Instead their thoughts are focused on what is being said and who is saying it.  Not only are they listening to what is being said but how it is being said, body language, and tone of what is being said.  The listener is also making a point to engage with the person who is speaking to make sure they understand what they are say is what they mean to communicate.

Being a good listener involves more than just sitting quietly while another person talks.

Being a good speaker means not just talking on an on about anything and everything. Being a good speaker means you are aware of the person listening to you. It means that you’re aware of weather or not they are actually listening to you as you speak. As the speaker you are not just speaking but you’re taking in the listeners body language and facial expressions.  It means you are aware of the person you are talking to. You’re  not just talking for talking sake.  It also means that, you may, as the speaker, ask questions about the subject you’re  talking about, to the person who is listening to you, and sometimes become the listener.

Being a good speaker involves more than just talking about a subject while another person sits and listens.

Communication is complex, and to not think about how we listen and how we speak is unwise.  Even as I sit here writing my thoughts down, I am not able to fully express the depth of this subject. I can only share just a few things I have experienced in my brief life so far. I can’t give you every detail.  There will always be more to say on the subject of communication, again it is complex.

James 1:19-20
[19] My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, [20] for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.


The scriptures say something very often, they say speak slowly use words with caution.
Very often I have read in the scriptures be attentive and listen well.
So speaking is important but listening is even better, and requires pause.  I have often observed that good speakers understand the value of listening more than speaking.

Anyway that’s all I guess, for now.

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